Creating vs. Discovering your Purpose

Purpose is more than just what you do or even how. There’s no prescribed role or avocation in life that promises you’ll find your joy, your purpose, and the secret to living abundantly. However, there are a few ways to create your purpose and reap more abundant joy.

Creating Your Purpose

1) THE FIRST ALCHEMY OF CREATING PURPOSE: Live in ways that make you a person you like

Liking yourself is important to your alchemy and your abundance. Be the person you most want to spend time with, because you do. Be someone who has kind thoughts. When you like yourself, humbly yet sincerely, you can find more to like about others.

Earl Nightingale said, “When you judge others, you do not define them, you define yourself.” When you condition your mind to like yourself, unconditionally, you naturally and unconditionally like others.

The first alchemy of purpose is recognizing that when you can like yourself unconditionally, you act different around others. They sense that you don’t judge, not even yourself.

2) THE SECOND ALCHEMY OF CREATING PURPOSE: Liking others just as they are

Liking others is the real secret to personal, professional and spiritual success. Change your life by seeking what you truly like about those with whom you do business or otherwise interact.

It doesn’t matter whether you have a job or are in business for yourself. It’s the same whether you’re serving your family or community. It’s true whether you are retired or able to devote your time to spiritually support the world.

How you feel about the people involved is what matters. And it’s no secret even if you don’t share it out loud. It’s even better if you don’t. The old saying is true, there is nothing hidden or unknown. At some level, people know how you feel about them.

The second alchemy of purpose is remembering that people want to be liked even more than they want love. People need someone to believe in them. Choose one thing to like about someone, genuinely, and it changes everything between you.

3) THE THIRD ALCHEMY OF CREATING PURPOSE: Bringing it together

I recommend going within your heart and mind to truly feel and get to know yourself. Then take that shift of awareness with you into life. This means that you take what you are inside when you walk through life. And when you walk in the door of your job or business, or care for your home and family.

It’s a shift of perception to remember that what you think about, emanates through you without you saying one word. If you have kind thoughts about yourself and others, then for the most part people will want to reciprocate. At the very least, they leave you be. Or if they still have issue with you, you are resilient and you humbly yet confidently seek to learn how to restore harmony.

The third alchemy secret of purpose is cultivating that shift of perception. It comes from the unwavering belief that you can respectfully and honorably walk alongside others. That your purpose is to silently greet the best in others. Then you can labor in harmony.

Isn’t this just positive thinking?

Yes and no. ‘Liking’ others usually doesn’t bring up the same energy blocks as ‘loving.’ It’s a philosophy that truly brings success because, at deep levels, you’re giving people what they want.

Be careful though.

You can only do that when you already like yourself. You then have no reason to dislike others, nor do you have an agenda. There’s no ulterior motive, no desire to get something from someone else if you’re already giving yourself what you need. Then, when you give, you’re giving from the overflow of self-like. And you are more authentically appreciative when others give to you.

I mentor those who value a life of meaning and purpose. For more about my spiritual success program, click here.